Post Written By Eugene Morgan
“Every day brings a choice: to practice stress or to practice peace.”— Joan Boryenko
Respect
You Are Very Powerful!
Post Written By Eugene Morgan
“You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.”— Yogi Bhajan
On Respecting Yourself
Post Written By Eugene Morgan
For us to respect others, we must first respect ourselves. Respecting ourselves means to do things we know is right and healthy. If we’re continuously placing ourselves in difficult situations and we know we have a choice to get out of them, then we’re disrespecting ourselves. If we ignore the same emotions that keep creeping up and we are not dealing with them, then we’re disrespecting ourselves. If we knowingly give our power away and aren’t using what abilities we have, then we’re disrespecting ourselves. If we aren’t being honest with ourselves, then we’re disrespecting ourselves.
Trust What Is Right
Post Written By Eugene Morgan
It’s all right to ask for someone’s opinion, but ultimately we have to make the final decision and live with it. We do what’s right even though it’s not the opinion of a group of people. Do what’s right because our integrity depends on it. Do what’s right because our self-worth depends on it. We begin to lose faith in ourselves if we don’t value what’s important to us. Our value is what’s guide us to what we think is right in our minds that’s important. When others lose faith and trust in us, then we lose faith and trust in ourselves. So we got to be honest with ourselves so we can trust fulfilling our values.
It’s All Right to Please Ourselves, Too
Post Written By Eugene Morgan
When we don’t do the things we asked ourselves to do, we disappoint ourselves. It’s all right to please others as long as we please ourselves as well. When we please others, we go out of our way to make them happy. When we have desires, we can go out of our way to make ourselves happy.
It’s all right to treat self with respect. When we say we’re going to set a goal and meet the goal, we’re respecting ourselves, but if we don’t follow through with our goals we have set then we’re disrespecting ourselves and disappointment and self-doubt can set in.
Since we’re always going to live with ourselves, we might as well get some self-respect. When we start respecting ourselves, things begin to happen, things begin to open up for us.
Respect keep us in Balance
Post Written By Eugene Morgan
When we respect others like our elders, our teachers, our parent(s) we’re holding them to highest regard because of their wisdom and experiences they have to teach others about life.
Respect is important in our society because it keeps us in balance psychologically. When others respect us we feel good about ourselves. As citizens, we have to give a certain amount of respect for civility.
Some would argue that respect is earned which is true as well. Respecting one another increases positive energy and support that all of us need to succeed in life.
When Biases Hurt and Respect Heals
Post Written By Eugene Morgan
We all have biases. However, biases can hurt. We aren’t defined by biases of others and our biases shouldn’t define others.
Therefore, we shouldn’t impose our biases on others, instead we need to learn how to get to know the person. Biases are easily made when we don’t know the other person.
We’re all unique people but with similarities. Respecting others is the first step of letting go of our biases. If we want to be treated with respect, then it must start with us.
We don’t have to wait for someone to show us respect, but to be model examples by showing others respect. When we show respect towards another person, their hostility towards us will decrease.
Biases can hurt but respecting others can be healing.
Goodness is based on Respect for the Self
Written by Eugene Morgan
“That sense of goodness and adequacy is not to be based upon a sense of superiority of one’s own attributes, but upon a respect for the self.” Milton Erickson
What is so important in humanity and the animal kingdom, is respect. When our self-respect gets depleted, our anxiety and hostility level increases. When hostility is high, we see the world in a hostile way. However, when we have a sense of self-respect, we see the world as a place to celebrate life. There is no goodness if we disrespect others and ourselves. Instead of having a sense of superiority in one’s own attributes, let us admire someone else’s attributes. This is what it means to respect others. We call this ego boosting when we show admiration toward another person.
Diversity and Acceptance
Written by Eugene Morgan
“I think the faults that you recall in human beings give their charm to that individual that enable you to recognize and remember that individuals,” Milton Erickson
No one is perfect. We all come in different shapes, sizes and colors. Perfection is an internal standard that blinds us from what is real. It can keep us from being objective and observant. But in the above quote, Erickson reframes it nicely. He wants us to see our faults as charming and unique. Erickson believes that acceptance is possible when it comes to our faults. When we accept ourselves as we are, then we can focus on our potentials and on what’s possible for change. And when we accept ourselves, we can then easily accept the faults of others. So let us charm ourselves and everyone around us and no longer look for faults to fit some internal standard. Instead, we see that our faults are just another characteristic or attribute of ourselves.