Ericksonian Principles

Unless We Do

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“Nothing will work unless you do.” ˜ Maya Angelou

It always starts with us if we want to make progress. Our action is the main ingredient to make something work. Thinking about doing it will not work either. Avoiding the inevitable to do is just our waste of time. There is a greater possibility that something will work if we do, than if we sat idle. Yes, fear can hold us back unless we let it. Sometimes, we’re too quick to assume that nothing will work that we dismiss it without ever trying. Before we dismiss it, let us do confidently and with optimism then the possibility becomes greater for something to work.

Good Luck

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Sometimes we have good luck and sometimes we have bad luck. However, we don’t have to add to the bad luck; life is already difficult. We can place our attention on what we’re thankful for, and, what we have, instead of what we don’t have. The one person will always have something a little better than the next person. We can’t have everything in life but we can make choices based on what’s important to us. What we hold dear to our hearts is what we follow. It’s okay to dream and to follow our dreams. Following our dreams can take us places and meet interesting people along the way.

Stop Trying Harder

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When we continue to try and then try harder without any results, then it’s possible that we need to look at the situation or problem differently.  We don’t want to waste our time waiting for a different result when we’re using the same approach. Problem solving is always about what’s working and what’s not working. What’s not working is just as important as what’s working, because we can gain valuable information that can helps us to be most effective. Feedback is better than self-criticism. Self-criticism is only an expression of anger and frustration that’s based on a certain standard we place on ourselves. Instead, we can think about what’s not working and then alter our approach.

Give Yourself Some Credit

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Sometimes we forget to give ourselves some credit. When we complete something or accomplish something, we need to reward ourselves for the work we have done. We need to do this for ourselves to keep moving forward in what we’re doing. It is nice to please others, however, we ultimately decide on our own to do the things that interest us. Therefore, we need to give ourselves credit rather than waiting on praises of others. We ultimately need to please ourselves because we are going to be the first one to be disappointed in ourselves when we allow distractions in our lives and not do what we set out to accomplish.

Let Things Happen

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Sometimes, we got to let things happen, instead of trying to control the situation. We don’t have to win every battle or be right all of the time. Sometimes, others just need to vent and that’s okay. Sometimes, we’re too quick in giving our own opinion or solution to a problem. We just need to have a listening ear for someone.  We can only give suggestions that might help them, but it is up to the person to take them or leave them. If we sit back and absorbed the situation, maybe we will have a better understanding on what’s going on before we make a suggestion.

We All Have A Story To Tell

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We all have a story to tell. In fact, we have more than one story to tell. When we listen to a story, for us to comprehend it, we have to listen to it through our background of learned experiences. While we’re listening, we’re sorting through our experiences.  Through listening we begin to reevaluate our beliefs creating something of change in us. Stories can emotionally move us. Stories can alter our way of thinking. Stories can open up our minds for better understanding of things. Stories can help heal wounds if we let them. Stories can gather together a large group of people. Stories are magical because they can make a mind believe that it can do powerful things.

 

Stir A Fire Within Me

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“That living word(w-a-t-e-r) awakened my soul, gave it light, hope, joy set it free!” ˜ Helen Keller

Helen Keller discovered that she could learn. Before this discovery, she’d known only darkness. Before this discovery, she’d experienced grief and sorrow through her deafness and blindness. Her deafness and her blindness were once her limitations. But something inside her wanted to learn and her special teacher seemed to pull her out from the bottom of a well. Her learning to read and write was the bright light that she had experienced.  We all experienced feeling limited in some fashion. Helen was a tenacious learner. Even in her frustration, she didn’t give up in spite of her limitations. It is nice when things begin to click after long and grueling hours trying to understand something.

 

The Treasure Is Within Us

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Why do we look for treasures outside of us to find satisfaction?  The external things that we see around us are the result of our inner treasure. All the things that were created by us are the expressions of our inner self.  Whether it is useful or not, it is in our nature to create something. We can’t help ourselves but to make things. The thing that was made was once an idea first formed in our mind. The idea was born probably out of necessity, and then planned, and, through trial and error was made into something real that we can touch. This is where we can find our satisfaction.

Brainstorming

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Brainstorming can be useful. Brainstorming frees us from our biases. We don’t have to be critical about what pops up in our minds. Brainstorming allows us to discover more about ourselves. We can discover what we’ve thought about but that we weren’t aware. Brainstorming brings out surprises and aha moments. Brainstorming helps us to discover how narrow our thinking is and to realize how much we’ve suppressed things. Although, there will be things that come up that sound silly, but if we can think of a way to use them, then it won’t be as silly as we think. Brainstorming can helps us look at a problem in all directions.

 

Having Courage

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We know we have the resources and the ability to do it. We just need courage to just do it. Courage is really the lesson to be learned. Courage is about putting ourselves out there with risks that may hurt us. Criticism is inevitable in life. We just need to go with the punches. When we fall down, we just need to get back up with dignity. We will never please everyone and not everyone can please us. One person can’t please another all the time. Courage is our only security in life. Once we begin to feel confidence in doing what we feel uncertain about, then we won’t feel indecisive about doing the next uncomfortable thing.

Being Inflexible

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If we want to go beyond the limitation of our belief, we must be flexible. We must be willing to be flexible, if we want to make progress. The things we’ve done in the past before will only work for so long, and when this happens, we need to readjust our behaviors and be willing to learn and try new things. That means being open to suggestions from others and doing research to find another way. Change is inevitable so we might as well be a part it instead of resisting.

Without Regrets

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Regretting is about looking back on what we didn’t do. We didn’t act when we knew that’s the only way to move beyond ourselves. We made up excuses. We doubted ourselves. We didn’t want to let go of our comfort. We got to tolerate discomfort if we want to produce growth. We don’t have time for regrets. We have the remainder of our lives to put forth effort to do—to make action. That’s the only way to make things happen. We have to push to create momentum to move things forward. Idleness only keeps things the same but action creates an opportunity for growth.

Don’t Forget To Laugh

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Life is difficult enough for all of us. It is how we deal with it is important. Sometimes, we must give ourselves a break from the hardship of life and laugh with friends and family. It’s a balance act. Some of us can be caught up in life’s problems and we forget to laugh. Laughter is a good mental medicine for life. Laughing supports the health of our body. Laughter can break up silence in a room. Laughter changes the room from black and white to a rainbow of colors. Laughter is a result of looking at something in a positive light.

 

Progress Is Just Below The Surface

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Today is the first day of spring, but if you look outside in some places winter seems to linger. However, today can be a renewal to recommit to our resolutions that some us have made at the beginning of the year. Just as new plants are sprouting through, we can with our resolutions.  We just have to form new habits to work on it daily to begin to see things happening. Progress can be slow at times before we can see the fruit of our labor. We mustn’t give up just because we don’t see progress yet. Progress starts when we begin the process of doing the work. Progress is just below the surface; we just can’t see it yet.

 

 

Being Nice

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Being nice to someone can make someone’s whole day. A simple smile can brighten someone’s day. Perhaps, the person who has been brightened by our smile can also spread and share smiles with others. We don’t have to wait on someone to brighten our day, but we can brighten someone else’s day. By brightening someone’s day can make us feel brightened as well.  A smile can turn someone’s frown right side up. A simple smile can melt resentment away in instant if we let the smile in and allow it to spread throughout our body. A smile is an invitation for us to join in life’s celebration.

 

Wait For The Answer

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We all have resources at our disposal but how do we get access to them? When it comes to creativity, it really comes from the back of our mind (the unconscious or the subconscious mind). We all experienced an idea that pops into our mind and we ask ourselves, “Why didn’t I think of that?”  We didn’t come up with it consciously but unconsciously. So we ought to trust our unconscious mind more and just wait to our unconscious mind gives us the answers or steers us in the right direction to find out the answers or the solution to something that’s nagging at us.  Sometime questions can be answered through a dream or after good night sleep.  Our unconscious mind is constantly at work while we’re sleeping and processing everything that happened that day.

Get An Understanding Through Experience

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For us to understand something or expand our minds, we must first have some sort of experience. During the experience we are learning something in various ways. As we are learning, we are downloading the experiences in our memory banks. During the experience we are exercising our mind so we can better understand what we don’t know at the moment. As we get older our understanding of life begins to change. We begin to switch to a more global understanding about things and see things as much greater than ourselves. Finding meaning in our lives becomes more important to us than material things or ambition.

 

Hope For A Better Tomorrow

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If we have hope, then there is an opportunity for change. We have hope because we want our circumstances to get better. Hope is an unforeseen future or at least the way we imagine things could be. When we’re hopeful, we’re optimistic about tomorrow. Hope can be a state of mind. There is no doubt in our minds when we’re in this state called hope.  Being hopeful keeps our mind at rest and us centered. Being hopeful prepares us for what things to come. No matter how bad things are today, we can hope for something better tomorrow.

 

No Longer A Desire

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When we no longer have the desire that we once had in our goal, then we need to ask ourselves what originally got us interested in it before we started. We set goals because we had a desire for change. We want to make a difference in our lives and in others lives as well. Maybe if we make up a mission statement to ourselves, maybe this will keeps us on track in what we are trying to accomplish. We get easily distracted at times so being reminded of our purpose can be very useful and motivating. We need motivation at times when we don’t have it.

Getting Inspired

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It is nice to be inspired by someone, especially someone in adversity. In spite of their adversity, they still have the attitude of patience and endurance. Everything is temporary. Nothing last for very long including adversity. Even in adversity there will always be a window of opportunity. An opportunity to inspire others is how we deal with life difficulties.  Through our character we struggle because that’s what we are. All our lives we have gone through life altering changes that we had to make adjustments to. No one is without life adversities. It is how we deal with those adversities that show our true self.